Tuesday, August 4, 2009

My first bad online dating experience.

What is up with this picture you may ask? Well, I didn't have any others, so here is a random one. Tie it in as you will. :)

Okay, so as you know, I've started the process of "online dating." I have met several great people on there already. But here is the story of my first bad experience. For all intensive purposes, we shall call the guy in the story 'Buttface.'

So Buttface and I had talked several times online, and discovered we had a lot in common. Buttface wanted to meet, and kept nagging me about it, but I am very hesitant to do so. So finally, I decided to have a bunch of people over for pizza one night, and invited him. He seemed a little frustrated that it wasn't going to just be me and him, but he came anyway.

We got along great and had a good time. The next day, we went on a few errands and then to lunch with the kids. I felt very comfortable with him. I did tell him several times that I am a SLOW mover, and have to be friends with someone for a long time before wanting to date seriously. We hung out for several hours. That night, whilst sitting all sweaty and stripped down to the G's, he texted me, "Can I come over?" and I thought. Ugh... NO!

So I thought it was time to tell him, once again, that I wanted to just be friends first. Needless to say, he took it bad. He told me he didn't want to wait for anyone and he was upset with me. I couldn't help feeling bad, but then again, he wants to get serious after hanging out two freaking times?? What is wrong with him? I mean, I know I'm awesome, but still!

What I don't understand is how someone who is also divorced can move so quickly. I need my space, and feel good with my life alone. I think it is something I really need to ease into this time. Perhaps it is because he is a guy, and as all those studies say, men are happier married, and women are happier single. lol...

I haven't heard from him since, and am very releaved. Mom ofcourse told me it was my fault for signing up on the website. What do you all think? However, I am going on a date with a different guy on Thursday, so we shall see. I will post my dating exploits for your enjoyment later.


Mama Corleone said...

I knew I would like this story as soon as I head what you'd "named" him. Oh Laura....I hated being single, and all this just reminded me why. Interestingly enough, my husband (who was also divorced) was begging to me marry him after one week! And yes, we too met online. Maybe we are just two truly spectacular people???

Anyway, I think you are smart to keep things at your pace. But remember that you will someday have to take that plunge again. When he wanted to marry me (after a week) I flipped out. I wondered what kind of a lunatic he was.

Since then I have developed kind of a theory about divorces and men. Not always, but for the most part, men say, "Wow, that marriage/divorce stunk. Ok, who's next." And women say, "Wow, that marriage/divorce stunk. I wonder what I did wrong, or what I could have changed...does he still love me...did he ever....blah, blah." We beat it until it's dead, they move on because it already is.

I wouldn't judge them too harshly for moving on.

britta said...

Oh Laura! What adventures you are having! That guy was moving fast. I think when it's right, if want feel fast- scary fast- you'll peaceful about it, and not relieved to have him gone. :) Anywho- I'm also excited that you're a dating fiend. :0 woot woot! You go girl!