Sunday, October 5, 2008

Would a Roper by any name really be as sweet?

So here I am, in the middle of a name dilemma. I for the life of me cannot decide if I want to pursue changing both my name and that of my children to Roper. While it is true I have never felt like much of an Andreasen, I can't decide what would be best for the kids. I want to have the same name as my children. That is really important to me. And what may be right for someone else might not be right for us. So what should a woman do? Is the hassle of changing my name as well as Hyrum's too much? Or will it be worth it in the end to have all of us identify with a family that wants and loves us? I would appreciate any feedback. And in the meantime, here is a cute picture of Hyrum.

4 comments:

Blog Ness Monsters said...

Hyrum looks ssoooooooooooooo cute in this picture! and... like he's about 4 years old. yikes he is tall. I think you should change your name, and I have written you an email on the topic. We love you.

Sarita Baker said...

i think you're right... that's a difficult decision. i have mixed feelings myself having had a few different last names and i've never been married. A last name is a very important thing. I always wish I had the option to change my last name to my mom's last name and not my Dad's but then I was old enough to have some sort of opinion on the matter. Now I just went with the flow. And we've talked about this before: but in the end, no matter what you decide it's just so vitally important to be transparent with your kids and let them know anything they want to know... and then maybe they can actually make a decision. ??? I don't know if that helps. But I had always wished my parents had been more real and upfront from the start. :) Love you!

Wendy said...

i am nieve- i didn't really know you could change hyrums name without having full custody...
tough call- i definitely see you as a roper and hyrum is a roper too but i don't know if it would be best or not. i support either decision. sorry i am no help.

The Calder's said...

I'm just catching up on your blog. I think you need to do what is best for you. I think it is important to have a family identity, and Roper is your family. You will probably want to change your name and I would think your kids would want the same thing. I little work now ( I know I still haven't changed mine...so much paper work!) will pay off.